break ke baad

Went to see this movie yesterday. I watched movie in theater almost after one year. Realized a few things

• Its good to watch movies in theater once in a few months. It feels younger than the actual age :P
• Why do hindi movie directors think that each and every thing must be explained in detail as if people can't think on their own?
• Why does the hero/heroine in a hindi movie realize key things at 11th hour?
• Some random dialogue about life/love in the movie is actually a very good thought and makes you think
  
• Its also good to watch movie when theater is almost empty with only few people along with
• Randomly made movie plans turn out to be good even if the movie is not actually good
  

random..

i thought i wrote these learnings somewhere in blog, but i didnt' see it in a quick look over past posts.. no harm if it is a repost

oversimplification is bad.
and
empathy (samvedana) is very important.

focus on feelings, not expressions

In some incidents in the past, I always wondered - "what went wrong if I express what I feel" and always wondered why my expressions with my closer friends are creating (minor) problems. A learning a past few days : it is not the expression somebody can have problem with, its the feeling itself.

plastic, not bullshit!

While traveling with a few friends in rural area, I realized how useful bullshit is. It is used as fuel, to keep houses clean and neat, acts as fertilizer and so on.. So I realized when we call something or somebody bullshit, it is actually insult of bullshit - which is such a useful, nice and ecologically good thing.

So I came up with a proposal of using the word plastic instead of bullshit. Plastic is so useless, is not biodegradable, adds to the absolute waste and pollutes things like water, air and soil!

love and passion

When u like somebody, its like every action of yours is inclined towards it. So if you want to do something passionately (or u want to be passionate about something), every action of yours should be inclined towards the passion, it should be extremely intense.

I knew it already, but today I realized why saint poets use the metaphor of love to their devotion towards God.

(Written a few days back. publishing it today. )

importance of certain times

I had fight with one of my friends some days back. We had decided to meet on some particular day. She called up that day to say that we will meet the next day. Somehow I insisted we meet on the same day. I strongly felt like seeing her so I insisted we meet on the same day. She dropped plan of meeting me because of her other priority tasks. I felt the priority tasks were actually sub-priority tasks and I told her so. She didn't seem to like that ( I wouldn't have liked too).

If one sees logically, I might be wrong in this case, and may be I am. How can I define priority tasks for her? But, I have habit of expecting certain things in certain ways from my friends - and I follow those. For example, I get upset if some of my friends misses my call and doesn't care to call back within sufficient amount of time. Regarding conversations with close friends, I feel sometimes the particular time has to be respected for that particular conversations. Obviously, these are not where-about type of conversations. It could either be some type of intense experience sharing, something discovered or similar. I feel, once the time is missed, the zeal of that thing goes away. Sometimes the experiences are so intense, that you can't have the same conversation at some later moment.

Probably I need to re-define the importance of time in such cases.

communication

No communication or keeping silent is an important type of communication and its actually effective way of communicating one's feelings.

Ignorance is not justified

I was reading Vinoba's 'Madhukar'. It is a collection of short thought-provoking essays written by Vinoba Bhave. Vinoba writes in an essay - the lack of knowledge (ignorance) cannot be justified. One cannot say that I broke the law because I didn't know such a law exists.
How true is this! Thirst for knowledge is must for the very reason.

expectations

I expect certain things from friends or from those whom I call friends ( or people who call me friends). Those things could be some ways of communication, some greetings (like bdays), or similar. If the friend(s) don't fulfill that expectation, either I feel bad that I expected more out of a friend or I get angry at those. At this moment I feel it is bad. I will try to change it.

communication is important

Communication is an extremely important skill. Yesterday I talked to one of my senior acquittance. He is a great person and I am a fan of him. For some reason he fired me yesterday. The things he told, most of them were true, but he told them in such a way that created anger and irritation in my mind despite of the genuineness of the person's feelings.

So whenever I have to interact with that person now onwards I will always have a reference of yesterday's conversation which is bad for me. Even by realizing that every person has some strengths and some weaknesses, I feel communication is something that weighs little higher as compared to other qualities/skills. I obviously don't mean that it is 'the' important quality and everybody should have only good communication skills and nothing else. What I mean is even if the intentions for any act are correct, mis-communication might hurt somebody's ego, convey things in a manner that are not the way they are and thus screw up the things.

My learning : communication is as important quality